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Therapy for Emotional Abuse

New Moon Psychotherapy offers Therapy for Emotional Abuse in Downtown Toronto with online sessions available across Ontario.

What is Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is a serious problem that can have along lasting effects that are just as serious as those related to physical abuse.

Emotional abuse can come from parents or caregivers, romantic partners, friends, and colleagues. It can be separate to, or also involve, physical or sexual abuse. Sometimes emotional abuse often precedes or follows other forms of abuse.

Many who experience enduring emotional abuse, such as those who grew up with emotionally abusive parents, might not realize that what they experienced was abuse. That’s because to them, it feels like a natural part of life.

Emotional abuse involves:

name-calling, insults, continuous criticism
yelling
shaming or belittling, comparing you to others
being told that you’re worthless, a mistake, or bad
witnessing violence against others
gaslighting/manipulation
withholding affection as punishment
threatening to hurt you, your loved one, your pet, with or without weapons
destroying or threatening to destroy your property

Emotional abuse in relationships can further involve:

partners accusing you of cheating and/or cheating on you and blaming you for the behaviour
controlling your appearance and behaviour
telling you that you can’t find better or don’t deserve better
isolating you from family and friends
acting jealously or possessively

Often survivors of emotional abuse start to believe that the abuse is their fault or that they deserve the abuse. This comes from the things that their abuser has said to them or from the conclusions that they drew from the abuser’s behaviour. This is also false.

Survivors are never responsible for the abuse.

How Does Emotional Abuse Impact Survivors?

Emotional abuse has short-term and long-term consequences.

In the short-term or early in the abuse, survivors might experience:

feeling fearful, confused, guilty, and/or ashamed
hopelessness related to the situation changing
difficulty concentrating
tension,
somatic symptoms such as head or body aches
nightmares or intrusive memories

Overtime, these symptoms can persist and intensify. Emotional abuse can further lead to difficulties such as:

low self-esteem, feeling worthless, and believing the hurtful things that were said to you
difficulty regulating emotions
perfectionism and people pleasing
sleep disorders
mood and anxiety disorders (eg. depression, generalized anxiety, social anxiety, etc.)
chronic pain
substances abuse and addiction
eating disorders
post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex PTSD
relationship difficulties

If left untreated, these difficulties can persist and worsen. Survivors of childhood emotional abuse can struggle well into adulthood. Speaking to a therapist can help you find relief.

How Can New Moon Psychotherapy Help?

Everyone is impacted differently, our therapists will spend the first session getting to know how the emotional abuse has impacted you and learning your goals. They then create a personalized treatment plan to help you meet these goals.

Some survivors say that they have no idea what they want, they just want things to be different and better. That’s completely normal. We will work with you to figure it out.

Treatment plans may involve exploring how the abuse has impacted you, learning strategies to regulate your emotions, challenge your thoughts, set boundaries, and create healthy relationships.