• Therapy for Sexual Desire Discrepancy/Mismatched Desire

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    What is Sexual Desire Discrepancy/Mismatched Desire?

    Mismatched desire, also known as sexual desire discrepancy, occurs when one partner in a relationship has a higher or lower level of sexual or emotional intimacy desire compared to the other. It can manifest in various forms, including differences in frequency, intensity, or specific sexual desires within a relationship. These disparities can create tension, frustration, and sometimes lead to feelings of rejection or inadequacy, which can impact the overall wellbeing of the relationship. 

    Potential Causes of Mismatched Desire

    Mismatched desire can stem from a variety of factors, both internal and external, which may include:

    Biological Factors

    Hormonal imbalances, medical conditions, or medication can impact a person’s desire levels.

    Psychological Factors

    Stress, anxiety, depression, or past traumas can influence one’s sexual desires and emotional well-being.

    Relationship Dynamics

    Poor communication, unresolved conflicts, or lack of emotional intimacy can contribute to desire mismatches.

    Life Transitions

    Changes in life circumstances, such as parenthood, career shifts, or aging, can alter desire levels.

    Regardless of the cause, sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire can feel disheartening. Please know that change is possible! With the right support, willingness, and effort, partners can rekindle their connection and find satisfaction together. Our dedicated team of psychotherapists is here to assist you in navigating these challenges and rediscovering the joy and fulfillment that a harmonious relationship can bring.

    Change is possible. We are here to help.

    Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see how we may help.

    How Can Psychotherapy Help?

    Our team of specialized therapists, offers a safe, supportive, and judgment free environment in which you can address mismatched desire, explore your desires, and work towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. 

    Here’s what therapy for sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire may involve:

    Individual or Couple Therapy

    Therapy for sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire can be done individually, as a couple, or with multiple partners. It is common for individuals to begin on their own and eventually have their partner join. It is also common to begin as a couple/multi-partner relationship. You and your therapist will determine which format will be most helpful to you. 

    Communication Improvement

    Effective communication is the cornerstone of resolving desire disparities. Our therapists help couples and partners become comfortable expressing their desires and concerns in a constructive manner. 

    Exploration of Underlying Issues

    The most meaningful change tens to happen when we are able to identify an address the underlying issues or causes of our problems. Part of treatment for sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire is identifying and addressing/ resolving any underlying psychological, cognitive (thoughts), emotional, and/or relational factors contributing to desire discrepancies.

    Developing Intimacy

    Often couples experiencing sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire, experience a lack of intimacy in non-sexual aspects of their relationships. Psychotherapy or sex therapy can help by tearing down emotional walls and defenses, to increase emotional intimacy, trust, and understanding. This can enhance couples’ connection which often increases sexual desire.  

    Managing Expectations

    The reality is that much of the information that our society is exposed to about sex and desire is outdated or inaccurate. Psychotherapy/Sex Therapy can help couples and partners define realistic expectations and find harmony in their sexual and emotional needs. 

    Bespoke Approach

    No two relationships and individuals are alike. You and your therapist will work closely to determine treatment goals and tailor your treatment your specific concerns and goals.

    Remember, healing is a process, and it takes time and effort. The goal is not to eliminate all desire differences but to find a balance that both partners can be content with.

    Meet our Team

    Click on the photos below to learn more about the therapists and sex educators who support relationships impacted by sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire.

    Ready to get started? Reach out to us today!

    Are you’re ready to take the first step towards resolving your desire discrepancies and building a more satisfying and loving relationship? Reach out to us today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation with a therapist to learn how we might be able to help. 

    We are committed to helping you on your journey to a happier, healthier, and more connected partnership.

    Call, text, or email using the information/form below. Our administrative team will answer any questions you might have and learn how we can help you. 

    Prefer to book on your own? Don’t want to wait for the office to open? Click the link below to schedule a consultation.

    If you’re specifically interested in therapy for sexual desire discrepancy/mismatched desire, please tell us at this time so that we can connect you with a therapist trained to treat it.

    You will then be connected with a therapist for a free 15-minute consultation. 

    This is a chance for us to meet the therapist, ask questions and learn about their approach so that you can determine if they’re the right fit for you. 

    Schedule your first therapy appointment and begin your healing journey! 

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